“Rebuking your Brother when he Sins, a Loving Thing to Do”

Luke 17:1-10

10/7/07

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    After I read this text the first question that came into my mind was, “Doesn’t the instruction here to rebuke our brother when he sins against us contradict what Jesus said in another place about not judging, lest we be judged, and that before we try to remove the speck from our brother’s eye we need to remove the log that’s in our own?  Is Jesus speaking out of both sides of His mouth, telling us in one place not to rebuke our brother’s sins while telling us in another place to rebuke his sins?”  You can be sure that if you ever try to rebuke a person for a particular sin he’s committed that you’re gonna get an ear-full of “Who are you to judge me??” and “Why don’t you listen to Jesus and remove the log from your own eye??”  Most people like Jesus’ words about not judging; they’re not so crazy about His command to rebuke.
    But if we look carefully at this text we see that Jesus is not contradicting Himself.  His command not to judge others and to remove the log that’s in our own eye before attempting to remove the speck that’s in our brother’s eye is directed towards us when we see ourselves as more righteous and holy than our brothers, when we do not see ourselves as being as big of a sinner as they are.  You see, by nature we like to compare ourselves with others, weighing our sins against theirs, and it makes us feel good about ourselves to point out the really bad sins our brothers commit over against the little sins that we commit.  We’ll say that it’s out of love that we’re bringing our brother’s faults to his attention.  But we’re really only doing it for our own self-aggrandizement, hoping that we might even help our brother to become more like us in his behavior.  In this situation, Jesus’ words about not judging and about first removing the log from our own eyes must be heeded, and we must confess our own sins in humble repentance before we even begin to address the sins of our brothers.  You must be on the receiving end of the Lord’s words of rebuke first on account of your sins, be brought to repentance, and then hear your Lord’s words of forgiveness, before you try to help your brother deal with his sins.
    Once you rightly confess yourself as the chief of sinners, who would suffer under God’s eternal wrath and punishment in hell if it weren’t for your Savior’s sacrifice on the cross, then you can properly do what Jesus commands here and rebuke your brother when he sins.  This kind of rebuke will not be given in order to try to make yourself look better than, or appear to be less of a sinner than, your brother.  Neither will it be done in order to try to put him down, embarrass him before others, or lead him into despair with no hope of forgiveness.  It will only be done out of love for a brother who’s relationship with both God and with us, his fellow believers, is in jeopardy due to unrepentant sin.  The goal of this rebuke is always the restoration of a brother’s relationship to both God and His people through repentance and forgiveness.  Such rebuke can only be done out of love and is, therefore, truly a loving thing to do.
    Now, it won’t be received as something done out of love.  You see where this kind of love got Jesus.  Out of His love, He rebuked the world of sin in order to lead us to repentance and faith in Him as our Savior for the forgiveness of our sins, but it got Him crucified.  And yet, through that crucifixion, God was reconciling the world to Himself through the blood of His Son, not counting your trespasses against you, so that now, you who have been brought to repentance and faith by the work of the Holy Spirit through the proclamation of the Word have received the forgiveness of your sins, and your relationship to God and His people has been restored.  You no longer live under the threat of God’s wrath, but under His mercy for Christ’s sake in His kingdom of grace.
    You and I (all of us here) have been baptized, washed clean of our sins with the blood of Jesus, and brought into God’s family.  We are now brothers of one another.  “Brothers” is a term that the Scriptures use for fellow believers in Christ.  Whether you’re male or female makes no difference; the fact that female Christians are also called “brothers” lets them know that the same inheritance belongs to them in Jesus as it does to male Christians, and that there’s no distinction before God; all are equal in Jesus.  So we brothers in Christ all share the same heavenly Father, the same Lord, the same Baptism, the same Spirit, the same salvation, the same forgiveness.
    But we brothers are all still sinners.  We sin all the time.  Most of the time it’s in our heart and we don’t act out our lusts.  Most of our sins are secret, known only to God.  But sometimes we sin in such a way that our sins are open, manifest, and public (for example, when it becomes known that a brother among us has committed adultery, stolen something, disobeyed a parent, or gossiped about someone else).  In that case, the brothers who are aware of this must come to their brother who committed such a sin and rebuke him, in order to lead him to repentance.  This rebuke will be done with great humility (realizing that each one of us could be in the same situation); it will be done privately at first, calling in others if unrepentance continues; and it will be done in love.  Again, the goal is to restore our brother to a right relationship with God and His people.  This is why such rebuke is a loving thing to do, because what’s at stake is our brother’s salvation.  If he were to continue unrepentant in his sin, he would cut himself off from God’s forgiveness in Christ, and to do that would mean that he would spend eternity separated from God in hell.
    So, we brothers in Christ have been given a great responsibility by our Lord to rebuke one another when we sin.  And when we are on the receiving end of this rebuke, we must receive it as from the Lord Himself.  But our responsibility doesn’t stop with rebuke.  If our brother repents of his sin, we must then speak the Lord’s forgiveness to him.  To fail to speak God’s forgiveness to our repentant brother is tantamount to setting a stumbling block before him.  Our translation renders “stumbling blocks” here as “temptations to sin.”  What Jesus literally says here is that stumbling blocks are inevitable and unavoidable; they’re going to come.  They are things that would turn us away from the Gospel and faith in Jesus Christ.  They are things that would cause us to despair of God’s forgiveness and/or cause us to depend upon an idol or our good works for our salvation.  We can cause our brother to stumble by doing things like mixing Law with Gospel, by teaching false doctrine, by tempting our brother to sin, by not rebuking him for his sin but instead excusing and tolerating his sin, or by not forgiving him when he repents.  To those who would put stumbling blocks in the way of a brother, including the refusal to speak the Lord’s forgiveness to him, Jesus speaks a word of woe:  “Woe to those through whom stumbling blocks come!  It would be better for him if a millstone were hung around his neck and he were cast into the sea than that he should cause one of these little ones to sin.”  God threatens wrath upon those who would cause any one of His children to stumble, including those who would withhold His forgiveness from repentant sinners.
    Now, this is a very important point to remember:  It’s not your forgiveness that you give to your repentant brother; it’s the Lord’s forgiveness.  That’s because sin is not ultimately an offense committed against you; it’s an offense committed against God.  It’s an infraction against His commandments, and He has the right to send us to hell for such infractions.  But look how God took care of our sins:  He gave them to Jesus, who paid for all our offenses against God with His blood shed at Calvary.  God’s message to the world is not, “You’ve sinned against me one too many times!” or “It’ll be my pleasure to send you to hell!” or “There’s no hope for you!” but “Repent and believe the Gospel.  Confess your sins, trust in my forgiveness for Christ’s sake, the sacrifice for your sins, and turn from your evil ways and live.”  This is His call to the world, and it’s also His call to Christians - justified sinners, who still fall into sin on a daily basis and need to repent and believe the Gospel again and again.  In fact, your Baptism was the beginning of a lifetime of repentance and faith which the Holy Spirit is still working in you today.
    And He uses you and me as instruments to help bring our erring brothers back to a restored relationship with God when they sin.  It’s a loving thing that we do, that God does through us - through me as your pastor and through you, brothers in Jesus, so that we might not fall away from God into unbelief.  It is the way our Good Shepherd comes after us when we stray from His fold.  He calls us to repentance with His words of rebuke, and He calls us to faith with His words of forgiveness.  And God is not stingy with His forgiveness.  He forgives you the whole lot of your sin, not just the sins you ask forgiveness for.  To confess your sins is to confess all of them, even the ones you’re not aware of, even the ones you don’t remember, even the ones you don’t think you’ve committed.  God doesn’t give fractional forgiveness; therefore, our confession can’t be fractional either.  We cannot withhold any of our sins from Jesus’ forgiveness.  He didn’t die for some of your sins, but all of them, which He did apart from your asking Him to.  And God applied Christ’s sacrifice to you at your Baptism, washing away all your sins even before you confessed them.  He still grants you full forgiveness of all your sins today, even before you name them.  To pray, “Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us,” does not mean that God withholds forgiveness from you until you forgive others and until you ask for forgiveness.  We are taught to ask for the forgiveness that He has already promised, given, and continues to give us in Jesus and to forgive others as we have been forgiven.  When we forgive others, it’s a sign that we ourselves live under the Lord’s forgiveness and withhold it from no one.
    Live under that forgiveness, then, for yourself and speak it to your brothers in Christ, who have been cleansed with His blood and clothed with His righteousness just as you have been.  Let your words of rebuke towards your brother in Christ always be done in love, and speak them with this end in mind:  that the Spirit of God through His words in your mouth might remove all stumbling blocks of sin from your brother, so that nothing might hinder him from being restored to a right relationship with God and from receiving again the full forgiveness of all his sins in Jesus.  Amen.

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